The hidden struggles of masking in autistic children and the impact it has on contact arrangements.
Navigating disputed Children Act Proceedings is often complex, requiring a nuanced understanding of each child’s individual needs. This complexity is even more pronounced when the child is, or suspected to be, autistic.
Autistic children may present unique challenges that demand careful consideration, especially when it comes to Child Arrangement Orders. One size does not fit all, and this is particularly prevalent for autistic children, and navigating the change between two homes and parenting styles can impact neurodiverse children significantly more.
Whilst every case is unique, there are often reoccurring themes in Children Act Proceedings involving autistic children. One issue we have found arising more often is the impact of ‘masking’ on contact arrangements.
What is Masking?
Masking is a term used to describe the coping mechanism by which autistic people consciously or unconsciously hide or suppress their behaviour and emotions. This is often done to fit in with social norms, meet expectations or avoid negative attention. It can involve mimicking the behaviours of others, such a forcing oneself to make eye contact, suppressing stimming (repetitive movements or sounds) or engaging in conversation despite feeling uncomfortable.
While autistic children who are masking may appear like they are adjusting to a situation or certain contact arrangements, it can be exhausting and lead to feelings of isolation, anxiety and dysregulation.
Over time, masking can take a toll on a child’s emotional and mental well-being.
The impact of Masking on Children Act Proceedings
In any Children Act case, understanding the child’s true feelings is a significant factor in making decisions that are in their best interest. However, when a child is masking, it can be difficult to discern what they truly want or need. A child may appear compliant, happy or comfortable during contact with one parent, but this outward appearance may not reflect their internal state.
Upon their return to the other parent, the child may find themselves dysregulated, potentially resulting in meltdowns and distress for the child. This can cause a knock-on effect, impacting the child’s schooling, home life and general well-being.
Where parents are experiencing two different situations, it can create acrimony where neither party believes the other.
Masking can lead to misunderstanding about the child’s emotional well-being which is why it’s important that child arrangements orders are designed to reflect the complexities of an autistic child.
In cases involving children who are suspected to be autistic, it is important to obtain a formal diagnosis as soon as possible and potentially involve a psychologist or independent Social Worker at an early stage. Whilst the Court is progressing their understanding of neurodiversity, having released guidance this year regarding neurodiversity in the family courts, they do not always have specific experience with autistic children and therefore the involvement of experts who do can be invaluable. You can read more about the recent neurodiversity guidance under the related articles section below.
How can we help?
If you have any queries regarding child arrangements for a child with, or suspected to have, autism spectrum condition, please contact Evangeline Evans or another member of our Family & Matrimonial team.
